“Should I Post This?”: A Guide To Sharing Online

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Story by Opinion Editor Grace VanHaitsma

It’s hard to imagine a world without social media. Whether you use social media to post pictures, follow celebrities, or talk to friends and family, almost everyone has some form of social media. As I’ve grown older, I’ve realized something about social media: it feeds the unnecessary need to share everything going on in our lives, even at the expense of others. 

I’ve definitely been a victim of oversharing online, but as I’ve matured, I’ve realized that sharing so much about how I feel online never did me much good. Having finstas, private snap stories and such sounds appealing, but they’re often used to talk negatively about others; and what is said often gets back to the person. I have been on both ends of this and it is equally hard for both parties. While it is tempting to vent about, or even insult, those you are frustrated with online, I find it never yields positive results; not only does it usually get back to the person in question, it never makes you feel any better either. 

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I have started to truly think before I post on social media, and I encourage others to do so as well. Is what you are posting productive? Will it make someone else feel bad? Will it make you feel any better, or will it just add on to your stress? I have made it my personal goal in the new year to think about the energy that I am manifesting when interacting with others and posting online. When we post negatively about ourselves and others, we are allowing that negative energy to coalesce and become stronger. I have learned that it is much more beneficial for me personally to quietly share my frustrations with my friends or parents than to publicly post about it, even if I believe it is only reaching a small group of people. What we share online reflects on us as human beings. I have chosen to be positive, kind and thoughtful online and in person in 2023. I hope you join me.